Children are our most valuable treasure – a gift from God. With that gift comes the responsibility to love, enjoy, teach and train them. But we have so little time with these kids, and so much that we need to teach them. So where do we start? If we had to break it down and rank all of the little life lessons, what are the 3 most important values a parent can teach a child?
3 Values You Can Teach Your Child
Here are the top 3 values you can teach your child:
1. Teach your children Godly character (II Timothy 3:14,15)
There are many things that every child should be taught about. Many of these are things they won’t just learn on their own. If we don’t teach them, who will?
Here are just a few of the things that are very important to teach:
Many of these are character qualities; the others relate to building their faith and teaching them God’s Word. We need to have a set time daily when we teach our kids God’s Word, and teach them about Godly character.
It is our responsibility as parents to teach our children Godly character traits. What they say or do is the unfortunate tendency of their fallen nature. We need to nurture them in a Christ-like environment that fosters selfless love and gives them good boundaries.
Then we have to pray for them and with them, that they will develop those character qualities and become more like Christ. Not only should we teach them, but we also need to train them, and practice right behavior.
2. Teach your children values by modeling personal examples.
Our children learn MUCH more by what we DO, than by what we SAY. They notice things and watch our actions, attitudes, and responses.
What is the most important thing in parenting?One of..if not THE most important thing in parenting is instilling a deep faith in the heart of your children. Pointing them towards Christ so they can grow to know him in a personal way. Our children watch us closely, even if they don’t realize it. So in order to build their faith, we need to be an example in the following areas:
1. Our relationship to the Lord
Our kids need to see us praying, and reading our Bible. They should see us trusting God when we don’t understand, or when we have needs. If we pray for God to supply, but then fret and worry, our kids aren’t going to have faith. They are going to wonder if they really can trust God, because our example says something different than our words.
2. Our relationship to our spouse
The best way to prepare our children for a happy marriage is to love your husband, and show him the respect and honor he deserves. Your kids will pick up on that, and will also respect him.
Values To Teach Your Child
3. Our relationship to others.
The greatest commandment in the Bible is to love God; the second greatest command is to love others. Again, this doesn’t come naturally! We are prone to putting ourselves and our needs or wants first, rather than loving others.
The home is a wonderful training ground for teaching your kids to love others. First, their siblings! But we should also set an example for them of loving others. If someone hurts you or is unkind, show love in return; pray for them; do something to bless them. This will teach your children far more than your words ever can teach!
Also, reach out and minister to others in need, and let the kids help. For example, let them help you prepare a meal for someone who has just come home from the hospital, or had a new baby. Be helpful to that elderly neighbor, and get your kids involved in serving them when there is a need they can meet. (mowing their lawn, shoveling their drive, cleaning the house for them, etc.)
3. Teach your children a Godly lifestyle.
They should learn the importance of God’s Word by seeing you daily reading your Bible. When there’s conflict, they should be taught to go to God’s Word for answers. Rules should be based on what is pleasing to the Lord.
What kind of reading materials are in your home? And what kind of music do you listen to? Or what is being watched on TV? Is going to church to hear the preaching of God’s Word a regular thing in your home?
There are values to teach your child in all aspects of your daily life.
Our kids are influenced by all these choices/actions, and they will make a difference in how your children see things.
Not only should there be spiritual activities in the home, but we should also make our homes fun! Play games together, laugh together and have a good time as a family. Christians should be known for their joy. If we are sour-faced and grumpy, and the atmosphere of the home isn’t happy, what is that environment going to teach our children?
Our children are always learning in these 3 ways, whether we mean for them to or not. They learn by what we choose to teach on purpose, or neglect to teach, they learn from our example, and they learn from our home environment.
The 3 Most Important Values A Parent Can Teach A Child
How will you use these precious days with your children? Will you model a life of integrity and Godly Character? It is my prayer that you will stay aware of how you live and model life in front of your children. And that God will use you in a powerful way to teach your children in a very special way that He equipped you to do.