As my kids were growing up, I sometimes neglected daily character lessons because I just didn’t know how to focus on and teach specific Godly character traits that were needed. Other times I forgot to be intentional about how to focus on and teach specific Godly character traits.
Looking back, I’m realizing that it is better to just start doing something even if it is just a little teaching. Over time I developed a pattern for teaching each of the specific traits.
To help you be intentional in this part of parenting, I’d like to share an example of how I do this. This method I’m sharing is taken directly from the lesson on courage in my Little Lads & Ladies of Virtue Character Curriculum.
How to focus on and teach specific Godly character traits
How do you introduce character traits?
(For this example, I will give ideas for teaching courage.)
1. Teach your children the meaning or definition of each character trait.
For example…” courage is doing the right thing even when it’s difficult.”
2. Teach what living out each character trait looks like.
Courage is facing your fears with confidence. Courage can be physical, like jumping from a diving board, or moral, like doing the right thing when your friends may laugh at you.
It doesn’t just have to be something you are scared of, but also means doing the honest or right thing.
What does the Bible say about Godly character?
2. Teach and memorize a Bible verse that relates to a specific character trait.
One of my favorite teaching verses for Character training is 2 Timothy 1:7:
Remind your children that fear is not of God. He has not given us that spirit, but rather a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind. When they are afraid they need to claim His power.
How do you teach character traits?
3. Teach character traits with hands-on activities or games.
Talk about the courage of David in the story of David & Goliath.
Then play the game David, David, Goliath. (Same as Duck, Duck, Goose)
Have the kids sit in a circle on the floor. Choose one to walk around tapping each child’s head saying “David, David, David.” When they say “Goliath” the child they tapped chases them around the circle to his old spot.
Then you can talk about the courage of David in the story of David & Goliath.
How do you explain character traits to a child?
4. Define and discuss character traits through roleplay.
Have the kids make a fort they can hide behind. Have them stand beside it, and when you read a statement that shows courage, they should stand in front of the fort and stand tall and brave.
When the statement shows foolishness or a lack of courage, have them hide behind the fort.
Some of the statements you can use are:
- Not doing something dangerous even if someone calls you chicken
- Lying to Mom because you are afraid you will get in trouble
- Walking away from a fight
- Doing something you know you shouldn’t because your friends are
5. Give positive feedback and encouragement.
When you see one of the kids showing courage, praise them and let them know how pleased you are. That encourages them (and the other kids) to try to show good character.
Using a chart and giving them check marks or stickers each time they show good character is a great way to keep you looking for the opportunity to give positive feedback, rather than noticing the negative behavior more often than the positive.
Why is it important to teach character traits?
Here is a simple challenge to teach Godly character to your children:
- Choose a character trait that is needed, and put together a lesson with the ideas given above.
- If you’d rather not write your own, purchase a character curriculum that has the lessons done for you, and begin to teach specific traits regularly.
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What an amazing idea. As a Mom of one I feel completely clueless with practical ways to teach my daughter correct character (and she is a super energized child!) as there seems to be limited resources for really simple and easy ways to do this. Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for such easy but impactful points. Never used David’s story for this purpose.
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I have been looking for a good character trait curriculum for months but nothing has really fit with our religion and what I wanted. I was feeling so defeated and ready to give up on the search but prayed and then this fantastic post popped up in my inbox. I have been so busy and had no time to even check my personal emails but this one kept popping out at me so I made a point to make time for this and I can’t even begin to tell you how excited I am to have come across this. I apologize for the long comment but I really just wanted you to know how genuinely huge of a blessing this is to my family! Hopefully this will still be available in a few days when payday hits because we really do need this! I just finished doing the above listed exercise with my 5 kids and they loved it just as much as I did. Thank you truly for the time and effort you put in to making this!
Thank you, Kathie, for encouraging us to build Godly character in our children! I appreciate your wisdom as a mom who’s been through this before!
Thank you for these lessons! We are raising two grandbabies and are using your lessons to help us teach them Godly character traits.
Thank you for the great ideas, Kathy! My oldest son loves the story of David and Goliath but I’d never thought to use it as a character lesson!!
Thank you for breaking this down into steps and making it so practical.
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We’re about to embark on a year long journey of teaching our kids the basic character traits presented in the Bible. We’ll be starting with honoring God & others. I’ve got a good idea for all the other traits, but this 1st one of honor seems a bit daunting and I believe it’s the foundation to all the others. I love the Character Corner & the resources.
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I have used your Little Lads and Ladies curriculum as part of my homeschool curriculum with our 4 children and LOVE it. We actually extend the lessons with read-aloud stories & some kind of challenge that goes with the topic. We spend 2-4 weeks on each topic. My 1 year old doesn’t get a whole lot out of it yet, but the 3, 5, and 7 year old memorize the verses, the I WILLS, and the definitions. Thank you for your encouragement to start with teaching character.
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Really appreciate these tips! I’ve got 4 kiddos 5 and under and I truly desire to raise them know the Lord and to have godly character. Again, thanks for the encouragement.
I appreciate learning more about building Godly character in my kids – unfortunately, I’ve missed the opportunity to ‘teach them while they’re young’ – but I don’t think it’s too late – but I will have to modify things a little bit to be more age appropriate (the years of duck, duck, goose are long past)
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Thank you for today’s post.
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I really appreciate the examples. Thank you!
Thank you for both explaining your process and providing prewritten lessons. As a teacher by training, I prefer to understand a method that I can then use and adapt, but as a very pregnant mama, I often need to rely on someone else’s prep work or the teaching never gets done. We’re in a ‘character training crisis’ with our kids at the moment, brought on by a perfect storm of factors, but one of them is that we don’t want to copy our parents’ methods but haven’t found a good alternative. Finding your blog has felt like the missing piece to tie together some of the things we have learned elsewhere and make them usable.
Thank you for the instruction. What do you do when you have older children whom you have been diligent with, but they just don’t care, your spouse just finds a way to disappear when there is conflict and it is affecting the littler ones?
You’ve inspired me to start purposefully character training with my children.
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Thank you for showing step by step way to teach the character traits. Sometimes it’s hard to know what exactly to do besides just exaplib what it means and give an example!
I have enjoyed your lessons and e-mails. They all have been very encouraging to myself and for my child.
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Two weeks ago I began the Little Lads and Ladies curriculum with my 3.5yo daughter. I am amazed at how quickly she has memorized the Bible verses and virtue definitions… and she has had so much fun doing it! Praying that all these lessons are shaping her heart! Thank you.
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I appreciate the practical steps you give to help get started putting what I’ve read about into practice.
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