Homeschooling – If I Had It To Do Over

As I finished my 31st and final year of homeschooling, I was thinking back over the years. There are so many things my husband and I had learned as well as lots of changes we had made. It’s a journey I would do all over again, but there are a few things I would change if I had it to do over. After 31 years of homeschooling – here are the things I’d change if I could have a homeschool do-over.

Homeschooling - changes I would make if I had it to do over

Homeschooling- If I Had It To Do Over Here Are 3 Things I Would Do Differently

1. I would take better care of myself

As a young mom, I was able to get away with staying up late, getting up during the night with babies, and getting up early with the toddlers. I was tired, as all busy moms are, but I was able to do what I needed to each day. I didn’t exercise regularly, because I didn’t feel I had the time. There were always better or more important things to do. Eventually, it all began to catch up with me though.

I hit a spot where I started to struggle physically, and ended up with chronic fatigue, and stressed adrenals. I was burned out – physically, emotionally, and mentally. At that point, I realized that I HAD to take time for self-renewal. I needed to adjust things so I could get the rest I needed.

This required making some changes in our activities, and I had to pretty much stop all outside activities. I also started to take a break now and then with some friends. It’s amazing what a little time away, laughing with some like-minded moms, will do for you! Laughter is good medicine.

As I took those steps, it helped me improve mentally, and have clearer, more focused thinking, and well as more positive thoughts.

Fatigue will always lead to negative thoughts, such as: “I’m not doing a good job – my kids would be better off in school”, I’m such a bad Mom – I never have the energy to play with the kids”, “I can’t handle this anymore”, etc. Everything seems worse when you are fatigued.

If I am burned out and can’t function, I will lose my ability to do what God has called me to do. I wish I hadn’t had to learn that the hard way!

2. I would stress much less about WHEN a child “got” it with reading or math

I would focus on making learning fun and waiting till they were ready. For each child that readiness comes at different ages. They also learn in different ways. If I had known that when I first started teaching the kids, it would have saved me many hours of tears and frustration. (mine and the kids!)

I want my kids to enjoy learning, but if I keep pushing them when they aren’t ready and don’t get it, they will dislike learning. Also, if I use a curriculum that doesn’t work with their learning style, it will be much more frustrating for both of us.

Over time I realized that it doesn’t hurt to take a break from the phonics, or new math concept if they just aren’t quite ready for it yet. It’s better to put it aside for a time, do some learning games that aren’t intense, and then try the subject again a few weeks later.

3. I would focus less on making sure the rules were being obeyed.

I would focus more on building the relationship that would make them want to obey those rules! Rules are necessary, but as the saying goes, “Rules without relationship breed rebellion.” It is easy to strive for compliance while forgetting the relationship that will bring that compliance.

Because of our strong desire to be good parents,  in an attempt to be firm we were often too harsh. The relationship with our kids was damaged as a result of the harshness. We learned that it worked much better when we appealed to our children on the basis of love, rather than intimidation.

A similar error was that we tried to protect them from wrong. Wrong activities, wrong influences, wrong friendships — all while failing to befriend them the way we should ourselves.

In order to develop a relationship that would bring compliance, we needed to spend time with them. We needed to be available when they wanted to talk, and we needed to show an interest in what was important to them.

It was important to accept them for who they were, and let them know we loved them. That in turn leads to winning their hearts, which brings the desire for them to please us.

We learned it is better to work hard at keeping their hearts, than having to try to repair damage and win their heart back. (By the way, I believe that keeping our children’s hearts is the most important thing we can do as parents!)

There are many other things my husband and I have learned along the way, but these three stand out above the rest. I hope they will be a help to you on your homeschooling journey!

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  3. Hi Stephanie! So glad this was a good reminder to you – I think we all need that reminder from time to time, as busy moms! Praying for you!

  4. This is a very good, reminder post. It is so hard for me to put things that I have to do aside and spend time with the kids playing. I just feel like I always have so much to do. But I don’t want to be one of those moms who said “I wish I would have spent more time with my kids”. So maybe I can get them to start “helping” me with the things that I need to do. Please pray thag I will be able to get this in order! Thanks and God bless!

  5. Hi Maria! Yes, rescheduling would be a great idea! You will be glad in the long run that you took care of yourself. Not to mention that a well-rested mom is a happier mom. (Speaking from experience!) 🙂

  6. Wow, WOW – 31 years!! That’s a career. 🙂 Thanks for the insight! Yes, I am finding that as the kids (and I) are getting older, I can no longer stay up past their bedtime much to get a whole bunch of stuff done. Some rescheduling is in order!

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