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What Are You Looking For In Your Kids?

As a parent,what are you looking for in your kids?  I know I have been guilty of looking for the bad, rather than the good in my children!

what are you looking for in your kids

Due to an experience I had, my eyes were opened to the fact that I often focus on the negative, rather than the positive that I see in my kids. The experience was some simple criticism about a job I had done. In response to that criticism, I thought about the fact that you can do a job right for a long time and never hear a word about it. However, as soon as you do a little thing wrong, you hear all about it! The good is forgotten and never mentioned.

I realized that is exactly what I have often done to my children! They can do things right and behave well all day and never hear a word of praise from me. Then when they do something wrong they hear all about it. They should hear about the wrong, but they should also hear about the good. In fact, I think they should hear more about the good.

Failure to mention their good behavior, while always focusing on the negative, will lead them to feel that they can never please me. Soon they will quit trying, and not only will their behavior get worse, but I will also begin to lose their hearts. To keep their hearts, it is important that we give more love than discipline.  We also need to give much more encouragement and praise, than criticism or discipline.

Another result of  my tendency to focus on the wrong behaviors, while failing to  mention any of the good things they do,  is that I’m teaching them to be that way. They quickly criticize each other, but rarely compliment and praise. Why? Because of my example!

If I want my kids to be kind and encouraging to each other, I need be an example of that for them. Because the truth is, teaching them isn’t enough. It’s how we live that influences them! The Lord has opened my eyes to the fact that my example has been teaching them more than my words.

My goal is to praise much more than I scold or correct. It will pay off in better behavior, and happier children.

To help you praise your kids more, download this free printable: 

30 Words Of Affirmation 

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4 Responses

  1. Rose, you aren’t the only one that’s guilty of that! 🙂 I have to remind myself of this all the time!

  2. Thank you for valuable reminder. I know I’m often guilty of seeing only the negative when really, my kids do so many things right that goes unacknowledged.

  3. Hi Carolyn, thanks for stopping in! I think as parents we want so much for our kids, that we see the bad and get after them, meaning well of course. The correction, teaching, and training is needed, but so is the encouragement and praise. THAT takes a little bit more of being intentional in our parenting, and looking for things we can praise them for.

  4. This is very convicting! It’s easy to think their character will improve by us correcting everything, but it’s probably the opposite. Stopping by from the Mom2Mom linkup.

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