How to Avoid the Homeschool Comparison Trap

It is SO easy to look at what other homeschooling moms are doing, and feel discouraged. Inside the comparison trap, they seem to have it all together. Their kids are well behaved, seem to have good attitudes, and they even look nice all of the time! Their curriculum seems to be the perfect one for their family, and we start questioning whether ours is adequate.

We wonder why our kids have bad attitudes, and why we are struggling to manage everything. When we allow our thoughts to focus on that, doubt sets in and often leads us to feel like a total failure. Then we cry! I know because I’ve been there!

How To Avoid The Homeschool Comparison Trap

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The truth is that none of us have it all together! All of our kids have times when they struggle with their attitudes, and we all struggle at times to manage it all. However, we don’t like to talk about that, because we feel like we are the only one.

We don’t want to be seen as failures. So when someone asks us how our homeschooling is going, we respond with “Great! Wonderful! We just LOVE homeschooling!” And the comparison game goes on.

It’s time for us to admit that we DO struggle! Pretending that things are fine when we are struggling (as we all do!), doesn’t do anybody any good.

Falling into the comparison trap with others only brings discouragement. 

Using other people as your standard for judging your success, is self-destructive. If we would just remember that every other homeschooling mom has some of those same feelings and struggles, it would help us get past the tears that come from the comparison trap.

When you are tempted to compare, remember that each person’s family and their situation is different than yours. Instead, look at where you started and compare it with where you are now.

  • Are you moving closer to your goals?
  • Have you accomplished the priorities God placed on your heart?
  • Have your kids grown in character, and developed more of a love for God?

Those are the things to compare and measure your success by. Don’t fall into the homeschool comparison trap. God’s standards are what is important!

Take a look at the rest of the reasons homeschool moms cry below:

4 Big Reasons Homeschool Moms Cry

Hope When Homeschooling The Difficult Child

How To Overcome Anger In Your Homeschool


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