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Sorry For Yelling At My Kids!

 Having three children aged five and under keeps things rather busy at our house. Often I find myself getting upset with the kids when it’s “one of those days!” Unfortunately, I have often found myself getting more and more upset and tense, till suddenly I explode, and yell at the offender, or whoever else is there to listen! Afterwards, I always feel bad and apologize.
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I tell them, “I’m sorry I yelled at you.  Mommy was upset, and even though you were doing wrong, I shouldn’t have yelled at you. “  Fortunately, our children are very loving and forgiving, and we end up hugging and saying “I love you.” Often at the end of the day I have felt guilty, and like I wasn’t a good mom after yelling at my kids like that. But I’m glad that it’s something I can make right, while also teaching them the importance of apologizing when they wrong others.

I never thought of there being ANY positive influence in my negative behavior till something happened the other day. It showed me clearly that I HAD been teaching the children, though I really didn’t think of it that way. 

My 5 year old daughter was folding diapers for me when my two-year-old decided that she wanted to help too. Due to the fact that her efforts weren’t too successful, my oldest yelled at her and told her to leave the diapers alone, and quit messing them up.  I corrected her for talking unkindly to her sister, and explained that she needed to show her the right way to do it, rather than yell at her.

After I corrected her she went in the other room, and to my delight, I heard her say to her younger sister, “I’m sorry I yelled at you. I love you.”

I really SHOULD have told her to apologize, but I didn’t think to, and that’s why I was so excited!  She went and apologized all on her own!

Even though I do wrong, my kids can learn from it if I admit my mistake (or sin). If they never heard me say “I’m sorry”, they’d probably never say it either.

I’m glad the Lord uses me in spite of my mistakes! Let’s not be too proud to say “I’m sorry” when we make mistakes with our kids.

(An excerpt from my book Mirror Mirror on the Wall, Who’s the Best Mom of All?)

 

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12 Responses

  1. Laura, I love how you worded that – the idea that God can redeem our mistakes. Good thing He can turn them into teaching times for us to use with our kids. I think any time we mess up in front of the kids, it’s the perfect opportunity to talk about it, and show the importance of apologizing and making things right.

  2. Thanks Jenn! You are right – seems like the training will never end on most days. 🙂 But we can’t get weary in doing right, because we will reap results in time.

  3. I love hearing how your 5 year old apologized on her own, Kathie. Some days it seems like my endless efforts to get our children to say sorry (for real) don’t work, but good seed always produces good fruit, even when it’s long in coming 😉 Thanks for linking up at Mom 2 Mom Mondays!

  4. I think is something we all as parents go thru, the yelling, and then the guilt of it. We can only keep working on it.

  5. I love this! While I certainly can’t justify making mistakes just so my kids will learn from me, I am thankful that God can redeem my mistakes so that my kids can learn from them!

  6. Helene, I agree! We can’t force them to make sincere apologies that are from their heart, but by us setting an example of that, they are more likely to be sincere.

  7. Making kids apologize is only half the job, letting them see us be sorry from our heart for our mistakes is the other half!

  8. Dawn, I don’t think there’s ANY mom who hasn’t/doesn’t yell at their kids at some point or another. Realizing it and apologizing saves the relationships, as well as teaching the kids how to apologize.

  9. Kim, thanks for stopping in! You are definitely at a busy time, and I remember how easy it was to get stressed/frustrated when my kids were at those ages. Apologizing is the best thing to do, and I love how my kids always sweetly said “I forgive you Mommy. I love you!” as they hugged me. 🙂 “Those days” also caused me to depend on God!

  10. Hi Kathie!
    Thank you so much for your post! I have two little ones at home, a three year old and a 16 month old. I too find I have “Those days” where things just get under my skin. I try to apologize to the kids when I react poorly and I have had some sweet moments as they learn by example what true reconciliation should look like. It will be exciting to see how they resolve issues between them as they get old enough to both talk!
    Thanks again!
    Kim
    Visiting from Equipping Godly Women

  11. I find myself yelling at my kids when I know I shouldn’t, too. That is so good that your kids are learning to make things right when they lash out negatively.

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