Recently I found myself getting irritated with my husband over a couple of little things. Ugh, why am I irritated with my husband again? I allowed myself to dwell on those things. That fed the irritation that I was already feeling towards him. Friend, we have been married for 41 years. Though I have learned the secret to overcoming those growing feelings of irritation, I don’t always put the secret into practice as soon as I should!
How do I become less irritable with my husband?
A few weeks ago I was focusing in a negative way on the things that were irritating me. The Lord quietly reminded me that I should pray for my husband. As I prayed I asked God to protect him on the job, and keep him from injury as he worked. Then I began to thank God for a husband who works SO hard every day. He has for 41 years to take care of and provide for me and our family!
That led me to thank God for his faithfulness to me over the years. His strong work ethic, his faithfulness to God, and serving Him. One thing led to another as I thanked God for various qualities that I appreciated about my husband.
Before long, all thoughts of irritation had vanished away.
Is it normal to be annoyed by your spouse? Yes. But when I refocused my heart in prayer, I suddenly felt a new sense of gratitude for him. I realized just how blessed I really was to have a husband like mine! Really, it’s a simple solution, but it works! (By the way.. join our Praying Scripture For Your Husband 30 Day Challenge, and get started today!)
Why stay unhappy and irritated with your husband? Go to God, and He will change your heart!
When you find yourself getting frustrated with your spouse, stop and pray for him. It’s hard to stay upset at someone when you are praying for them! Then change your prayer to one of thanks for all the GOOD things that made you fall in love with him in the first place.
Bringing our thoughts captive, and replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, changes our attitude and outlook. I would encourage you to make a list of all the things you appreciate and love about your husband.
To prevent getting irritated with your husband, choose one of the items on the list. Then do these two things:
- Thank God for that special thing you appreciate in your husband.
- Thank your husband. You can either write him a little note and leave it where he’ll find it, or send him a text. (Think how much that would brighten his day!)
I can guarantee that your attitude will improve and your love for your husband will grow, as you begin to focus on his character strengths and all the things that you appreciate about him. So the answer to “Is it normal for your husband to get on your nerves?” is yes, but you don’t have to stay that way!
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