People ask me often “How do you do it?!” “What is the most important thing to make a happy family?”
There isn’t one big secret, but here are a few things we have chosen to do that we feel helped us have a big HAPPY family.
7 Tips For A Big Happy Family
1. Commit to your marriage. My husband Alan and I made a commitment to God at the marriage altar, and over the years we have chosen to love each other and stay together, even when things were rough. We promised each other that divorce would never be an option, then we worked to keep our relationship strong, and not let the kids come between us.
2. Raise your kids with morals and values that are important to you. As Christians, we have tried to teach our kids Biblical principles and values, while also exampling for them our love for Christ, and our desire to please Him. We regularly attend a Bible-believing church as a family and have been involved in different ministries in the church. If you try to raise your children without paying close attention to your morals and your faith, tips for a big happy family won’t get you very far. These are the foundation, the bedrock of your family’s core beliefs.
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3. You and your spouse need to care for one another. My husband did what he could to give me some time for my own renewal. He often would offer to keep the kids, while I went out with a friend, or just out to relax and be away from the noise and demands of little ones. He was also very good at taking little ones with him when he went shopping. Having the house to myself for a couple of hours would do wonders for my spirit. Those breaks helped me to not only be a better mom, but also a happier wife. We would also go out without the kids to have some time together to connect, relax, and be refreshed.
4. Dedicate your kids to God. When our kids were babies, we dedicated them. We then realized that we were given these children as a gift from God, to raise and train for His service. With that in mind, we did all we could to give them a hunger and thirst for the things of God. We prayed for them and prayed with them. We used God’s Word to correct and train them because His Word has a power that our words don’t have.
5. Realize that raising our children is your job, and make the commitment to be present and involved.
I was a stay-at-home mom and chose to homeschool the kids so we could be the ones shaping their values, and influencing them.
6. Teach your kids how to work and contribute to the family.
One of the best things we did for our kids was teaching them how to work, and expect them to work around the house on an ongoing basis. We trained them in jobs, then expected them to do the jobs that were on their job charts. They loved feeling like they played an important part in our family running smoothly. When they got older and got a job, their employers were thankful that they knew how to work hard and be responsible. When they got married, their spouses were thankful for the work ethic they had.
7. Be careful with your money, and live frugally. This helped us avoid the stress of debt hanging over our heads. It also taught our kids to be content and thankful for what they had, rather than always wanting the newest thing out there.
Having a large family requires a lot of work and energy, but the rewards for that time and energy are well worth it. Put the effort into keeping Christ first in your home and family, and reap the blessings of a large happy family!