When God disappoints you, how do you respond? Perhaps you can relate to this little story!
My young nephew was working in the garden with his grandpa one day, and was really enjoying being his helper. As they worked, it started to thunder, and the sky grew dark.
His grandpa told him they better put the things away and stop working because it was about to storm.
He put his little fist in the air, and said in his childish voice, “Why God? Why you do that?”
He was disappointed that God was sending a storm, and he didn’t hesitate to say so.
As adults, there are times when we too may feel that way, but usually we don’t voice that quite as blatantly as my nephew did!
What we forget is that God knows our thoughts, and is aware of those feelings we’re struggling with even though we may not voice them.
Sometimes things come into our lives and we feel like God has let us down. Maybe it’s because He didn’t answer a fervent prayer, or He allowed a very difficult situation in your life that brings tears and heartache.
Sometimes things just don’t make sense, and you say “God, I don’t understand!”
In your mind you may shout, “God, WHY?!”
Whatever it is that causes you to feel that way doesn’t matter. What does matter is how you respond to it.
God sees those thoughts, and knows your questioning heart is asking why.
If you could ask Him why, He would probably gently remind you that it’s because He loves you, and He has a plan. His thoughts are not our thoughts, and His ways are not our ways.
We can know that, but still wonder “WHY?”
That’s pretty normal in our human flesh, and I’m sure even the best Christian has had times where they wondered that.
What To Do When God Disappoints You
How you should NOT respond when God disappoints you:
1. Don’t get angry at God.
1. Don’t turn your back on God.
2. Don’t blame God.
How you SHOULD respond when God disappoints you:
1. Communicate your feelings to God.
Tell Him how you feel about the situation. It isn’t going to surprise Him.
I love these words of a song “What a comfort it is to realize that nothing takes God by surprise.”
He has things under control. He already knows how you feel, and it will bring healing and comfort to you when you just pour out your heart to Him.
“Pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us.” (Psalm 62:8)
Ask Him to help you with the hurt.
He is a God of mercy, and doesn’t scold or cut us off when we come to Him with our hurts.
He responds with love and comforts us.
2. Realize that God has a plan that you can’t see.
It’s not all about you, but about Him.
Think of when Moses led the children of Israel out of Egypt!
They were so happy to finally be free, and then they realized that Pharoah’s army was coming behind them, and in front of them was the Red Sea.
I’m sure Moses was asking God why!
He didn’t realize God had a plan that would show His power, and bring glory to Him.
So when you don’t understand, trust God!
3. Find comfort in God’s Word.
A couple of my favorite verses for comfort are
- I Corinthians 10:13
- I Corinthians 12:9
The book of Psalms is full of verses to bring comfort.
Find some verses and claim them!
4. Remember that trials are you help you. (James 1:2-4)
God isn’t allowing these things in your life to hurt you, but rather to help you. He is trying to build you, and refine you.
You can choose to become bitter, or better.
We want God to deliver us from the difficulties and trials of life, but He wants us to develop and grow through those difficulties.
You will only grow if you choose to allow God to teach you as you go through trials. Ask Him what He wants you to learn from the situation.
Sometimes life just doesn’t seem fair; at times it’s really hard, and your heart aches. But remember that the God who loves you, is in control.
The words of this song sum it up very well:
God is always good, God is always right
No matter what He uses, no matter what He chooses
To place within our lives.
We may not always understand
The unfolding of His perfect plan
But even in through the darkest night
God is always good, and God is always right.
When God disappoints you, go to Him and pour out your heart. Ask Him to help you trust His plan, and remember the promise of Romans 8:28. He will work all things out for your good!
What a great promise to claim.